Call boys: Not just sex?

When you are horny and your usual fuck buddy is out of town what has a guy to do? Sure you could jack off, but if you really would like the heat of another man near your skin you could call upon a rent boy – couldn’t you?

I have been thinking if there is anything wrong with paying for sex. Surely sex is a mutual agreed act itself and paying for it not only guarantees that you will get what you want and when you want it, right. So, should paying for sex be wrong?

Sure there is moral high ground that you can take and say it is sleazy. But what about all the one night shags you might have had, all the guys that advertises themselves for free at on-line websites, what is the difference – both were just meaningless sex right. As one call boy named Marky mentioned that: “…most guys that go out looking for some ‘NSA’ action indeed do pay for sex in some way or the other. For example, they go to a club, see someone they like, buy them a drink, or two maybe more, and then end up going home with them. They have sex by mutual agreement, even sometimes no agreement, and then go there separate ways afterwards. So yeah, quite interesting looking at how many guys have in fact sold themselves for sex, or vice versa even paid for sex with out even knowing it.”

Well, being me I asked around and met up with a couple of call boys to ask them what they think about if there is anything wrong with their profession. Naturally they would not disagree with that their profession is wrong, but you get the sense that their profession has a psychological impact on them. That is since their work can be a very lonely profession at times. That is a profession where the soul gets removed from the body, just to make the sex with strangers for money more bearable. Sure it is popularly assumed that people that are in the sex industry are all on drugs and that it is their reason for being in the business in the first place. That assumption is, however not totally true. Sure there are the crack-for-sex workers that do sex transactions for sex there are also career sex workers. Nevertheless, the word career might seem to be adding a word to describe an occupation that is held an average of four years. There are different reasons why guys become call boys: be it unemployment, sex addiction behaviour, homelessness, lack of money, drug-use, illegality, other conflicts with the law, illness, psychological problems, relationship problems. More disturbing, is that some research indicates that young men who sell sex often do it because of their sexual orientation, as they run away or are disowned by their families for being homosexual. However it should also be stated that there is also a large group of sex workers who live and work without any major problems.

According to the International Centre for Reproductive Health male sex workers suffers from low self-esteem, however this blogger disagrees. That is since there are many types of guys, some suffers from low self-esteem others suffers from sex addition, so by classifying all male sex workers into one group is just to one-dimensional.

But a question remains: are call boys selling themselves? It is not that these guys are selling themselves into slavery, nor are they a commodity. Rather, call boys offer a service by offering companionship, and sexual skills. In the process of receiving money for their services they are empowered. They can then use that money to study or just survive with a roof over their heads.
What is interesting is that not all call boys are full time workers, instead there are guys that moonlight as sex workers to supplement there income, and with South Africa in a recession the amount of guys could increase. The main similarity between part-time or full time call boys is the factor of payment coming from the ‘Johns’.


Some guys buy sex just for the fun of it, while others just want to explore different techniques which they don’t get at home. There may be various reasons for people to buy sex, such as greed, people who just can’t get enough and who get easily bored by the same partner, this also amounts to polygamy. Another one may be desperate, where he just can’t get a partner to be in a relationship with or it could be a heterosexual male that is curious about gay sex. Sure there are an indubitable service that sex workers can provide, besides the sexual, call boys offer a personal entertainment whereby they provide attention and companion to there clients which lacks it from their lovers.

For me paying for sex presents no ethical meaning. It’s not good nor is it bad, it’s merely a deed between consenting adults. Imagine how much more screwed up society would be if we all followed the doctrine whereby sex is only permissible within the confines of marriage. What of those people who are incapable of having such a relationship due to their personal circumstances? Would it be more acceptable for that person to exploit or hurt another when craving closeness and take them by force? Where are the morals in that? Surely it makes sense then to go to a professional? And besides truth be told, don’t we all pay for sex directly or indirectly. Buying that expensive gift for your partner or treating him to an expensive dinner can be a sort of payment, I stand to be corrected.

Now go and have fun and be responsible!

Personal note: I wrote this piece some months ago, but I have to admit that I was hesitating of posting this blog since I met someone special in the process and I did not really wanted to post this blog, since this blog might not be fair toward the real person behind the alias. Nevertheless, I am posting this piece especially for ‘Marky’, a good all-round guy that just happens to be a call boy.